How to choose a strap-on: types, sizes and tips for beginners
A strap-on is a toy that lets partners switch roles, try new positions and discover completely new sensations. It suits couples looking for variety, as well as those who want to try pegging or enjoy intimacy without a male partner. To make your first experience a pleasant one, it’s important to choose the right type, size and fit. In this article, we explain how.
What is a strap-on?
A strap-on is a dildo attached to the body with straps, briefs or a special shape held inside the vagina. This leaves the wearer’s hands free and makes movements feel more natural than with a regular dildo. You’ll find all models in one place in the strap-on section.
Types of strap-ons
Strap-ons with a harness or briefs
The classic option—an adjustable belt or stretchy briefs with a dildo attached. It’s stable, easy to use and the best choice for beginners. For example, the PRETTY LOVE universal strap-on harness or the INTOYOU stretchy briefs with dildo.
Strapless strap-ons
With strapless models, one end is inserted into the wearer’s vagina while the other is for the partner. They offer closer contact and sensations for both, but require a little experience and stronger pelvic floor muscles. Examples: PRETTY LOVE Valerie and the ADDICTED TOYS strapless strap-on.
Double strap-ons
Double models have two dildos—one for the wearer and one for the partner—so both of you feel the pleasure. Take a look at the BAILE double dildo strap-on briefs or PRETTY LOVE Kearen.
Vibrating strap-ons
A vibrating strap-on adds extra stimulation for both partners. It’s a good choice if you want more intense sensations, such as the BAILE Ultra vibrating strap-on.
Hollow strap-ons
Hollow models are designed for men—the dildo has space inside for the penis. They help if an erection isn’t firm enough or if you want to try a bigger size, such as INTENSE Hollow. If you’re looking for something similar, also check out our cock rings and sleeves.
How to choose the right size?
Beginners are advised to start with a small or medium dildo—around 13–16 cm long and not too wide. A smaller size is especially important for anal play. A good start is, for example, the Teazers 13 cm silicone strap-on. You can try bigger models later, once you know what you enjoy.
What else to consider
- Material – medical-grade silicone is smooth, non-porous and easy to clean
- Straps – adjustable straps should fit snugly so the dildo doesn’t slip and movements stay precise
- Interchangeable dildo – some models let you swap the dildo for a different size or shape
- Vibration – extra stimulation for both, but it needs charging
- Comfort – soft, stretchy material feels nicer on the skin during longer use
Tips for the first time
- Before you start, talk about your desires and boundaries and agree on a safe word
- Use plenty of lube—water-based lubricant works best with silicone toys. Learn more in our article How to choose a lubricant
- Start slowly with shallow movements and let your partner set the pace
- For anal play, choose a smaller size and read our article Anal sex for beginners
- After use, clean the toy with warm water and soap or a toy cleaner
Frequently asked questions
What’s the best strap-on for beginners?
A strap-on with an adjustable harness or briefs and a small silicone dildo (13–16 cm). It’s stable, easy to use and not intimidating.
Are strap-ons suitable for men?
Yes. Strap-ons are often used for pegging, when a woman stimulates her partner anally. There are also hollow strap-ons designed to be worn by men themselves.
What lubricant should I use with a strap-on?
Water-based lubricant works best with a silicone dildo. For anal play, choose a thicker anal lubricant.
How do I clean a strap-on?
Wash the dildo with warm water and mild soap or a toy cleaner. Clean the straps according to the manufacturer’s instructions and let everything dry completely.
Will my order be delivered discreetly?
Yes. All Erocity orders are delivered in discreet packaging.
The right strap-on helps couples discover new sensations and intimacy. Start with a simple model, talk about how it feels and experiment at your own pace. Browse all models in the strap-on section!